Saturday, July 15, 2006



The other night one of my girlfriends and I were planning to go watch a movie, but her husband pitched a screaming fit. She told him our plans the day before, hoping he would be mellow about it but no dice. He claimed that the only reason for two women to go out after dark was to screw around with other men! It's not the first time; he says the same thing even if we go shopping at the mall in the daytime.

It's not just the one friend with that type of marriage either. I have another married friend who's only allowed out of the house to pay bills (carrying just enough cash to cover them, her husband won't put her name on the checking account). She's not even allowed to have female friends visit her home unless he's there to supervise. What is it that we're supposed to be doing in her own home? One of our other female friends gave her a pair of earrings and her loving husband called her a whore, saying that the only person who would give her a gift was a lover.

Both of these guys say that women have no business being outside the home. That "decent women" should stay in the house and do "their job" and nothing else. No social life, no outside job, no interaction with outsiders, no hobbies, no visitors; women are supposed to just spend their entire adult lives waiting on their husbands and catering to their every whim.

What is it with some men, making them automatically assume that the only thing women are interested in is having sex with whatever man is available? Do they honestly think that women can't enjoy just being around each other without hunting down some poor man and tackling his sorry ass? Granted, some women go out on the prowl on their "girls' night out", but all of us are not constantly on the make. There are actually females who enjoy each other’s company without a man around to validate us. Besides, if I wanted to pick up a man why would I carry compition with me?

I would say that the husbands worry because I'm single and apt to "lead their wives astray" but these macho he-men act the same way regardless of who or where their wives are going, even if it's with their own mothers! Besides, we're all in our 40s and 50s. It's not like we’re models or young hard-bodies that have men falling all over us!

People wonder why I have no interest in getting married. All I have to do is look at the relationships around me and single life looks better and better.......

1 comment:

Lightning Bug's Butt said...

More often than not, spouse's suspicions are based in fact -- regardless of which sex.